Social Experiment Reveals How People React When Domestic Violence Happens in Public

Only one person says or does ANYTHING. Not surprising. Still ever disturbing.

TW for the video for scenes of physical violence, verbal abuse and bistander inaction.

“Ydhage and the group say they spoke with most of the people who rode the elevator. “Most of them said they felt ashamed of themselves for not reacting and said they were glad it was an experiment,” he told The Independent. “Some people claimed they were going to call the police, but we think that that is lie. We filmed it over two days and the police never showed up once.” ”

The video and full story can be found HERE

Survivors In Their Own Words #WhyIStayed

It’s the question every survivor of domestic violence is posed, often incredulously: Why didn’t you just leave? The reality is that leaving an abusive relationship is often a herculean task that endangers the woman and calls for resources that aren’t readily available.

Read six womyn’s personal stories at the link HERE, you can read the stories or listen to the survivors read the stories themselves, ever powerful

#WhyIStayed

Georgia Woman’s Last Act Saves Baby

I have had this conversation with a few friends lately about how tired I am (we are) of having to ‘prove’ that violence against womyn is a real and an incredibly important and overwhelming issue that NEEDS to me addressed. I’ve said that I could definitely give a new example EVERY. SINGLE. DAY of women being brutaly beaten and often killed JUST FOR BEING WOMEN. And that’s from the news, not from experiences shared with me, and obviously not accounting for the throusands that suffer in silence every day. I am so frustrated!
So for now I’m going to start collecting articles when I come across them, maybe I’ll place them eventually in their own page tab, but for now I’ll tag them all #tomorrowwillbedifferent to highlight both our need to act NOW to stop this situation from continuing, to break the silence, and also to call attention to what it is like to leave a violent situation. It is not for us to judge anyone in that situation, but to provide support and assistance in whatever way that person experiencing violence needs. Educating ourselves on the realities of abuse, methods of coercive control and better develop resources for those living with or fleeing abuse.

Today I came across this article about Georgia woman  Jessica Arrendale who’s partner and child’s father beat her with a baseball bat before shooting her in the head with a rifle. Her last act on this earth? Placing her baby in a toilet bowl and covering it with her body. Her daughter survived.
Rest in Power Jessica. 

Laverne Cox on Street Harassment

Wow. So inspiring to hear that after all she’s experienced she still has compassion and understanding for her oppressors. Every time I think I couldn’t love her anymore, she surprises me yet again!

Ladies and gentlemen, folks of every and all gender representations, Ms. Laverne Cox

This Woman Took a Photograph of Herself Every Day For a Year

The result is not what you’d think. Her sign at the end reads “help me, I do not know if I can wait until tomorrow”

The loss of her smile…like putting out a beacon of light. So powerful.

See the video HERE

A Discussion on Power and Privilege

“Instead, we need to recognize that not all hurtful words or deeds are equal when certain ones are backed by a history and current system of domination, violence, oppression, repression, dehumanization, and degradation.”

YES. THIS.

What Happens When A Man is Abused in Public?

This is an interesting video I came across today showing the same scenario twice, only in one the man is abusing the woman, and in the other the woman is abusing the man. I am deeply saddened by the reactions. Turning a blind eye, while terrible, is what I expected to see. But laughing??
The statistic at the end of the video is from this source. While abuse of men is incredibly underreported and underacknowledged, I have a hard time believing the statistic that 40% of those suffering from domestic abuse are men. Although, if the methods of research to reach this number were actually inclusive and looked at all forms of abuse (not just physical, but emotional, spiritual, mental, financial, etc) I could see this number being closer to accurate. Men DO experience violence and abuse in many forms and I feel we all should, and I personally try, to serve as an ally to anyone and in any situation where space can be made for healing. Every survivor deserves for their voice to be heard.

That said, with example, after example of systemic, public, private, personal abuses of womyn for control and power, and especially after a week like the one we have just had with the mass shooting in Isla Vista DIRECTLY FUELED BY MISOGYNST HATE, and based out of my lived experiences and those of the people I’ve encountered, I have to say that the above statistic isn’t sitting quite well with me…http://www.trueactivist.com/this-is-what-happens-when-the-public-sees-a-woman-abusing-a-man/

The Cop Who Pepper Sprayed Peaceful Students Will Receive $38,056 for Emotional Suffering

WHAT THE EVER LOVING FUCK!

I am honestly in tears watching fellow students step in and literally COVER FELLOW PROTESTERS WITH THEIR OWN BODIES after they’ve been doused in pepper spray and are being physically dragged away from each other. While another officer actually squats down to get a better angle to douse the faces of students trying to cover themselves with their shoulders and sleeves (remember, all the students have linked arms, they are essentially defenseless to begin with…)

What were they protesting, you ask? Corporatism and STATE VIOLENCE.

Maybe you suffer emotionally because you feel guilt and regret over abusing your position of power and authority to unnecessarily (and unlawfully) physically harm a group of students?? Maybe you need to deal with the consequences of the choice YOU have made!

Full Video HERE

SHAME, SHAME, SHAME

 

 

*edit** while I understand that some have opposing viewpoints on this situation and that this is the result of a situation escalating, and that by enclosing the police (who were enclosed around protesters they’d detained) LEGALLY certain force was warranted (although clearly not to this degree or this officer wouldn’t have been discharged from his position after 8 months paid leave during the investigation).
Here’s a novel idea, what if not all laws were just? What if ‘doing your job’ and upholding the law was actually inflicting pain and further oppression onto your community? These videos are startling, but this is where we are headed. The people will rise up and be heard!