The interviews cover topics from physical and mental health to employment and relationships. On Monday, findings from the study on intimate partner violence, pregnancy, parenthood and abortion were published by BMC Medicine, and those findings were striking.
Incidents of intimate partner violence by the man involved in the pregnancy went down among women who were able to have an abortion, but remained consistent for women who carried their pregnancies to term. The reason, according to Foster, was that “being unable to have the abortion tethered women to violent men, while women who have the abortion were more able to escape abusive relationships”
Read more about the study HERE
I have had this conversation with a few friends lately about how tired I am (we are) of having to ‘prove’ that violence against womyn is a real and an incredibly important and overwhelming issue that NEEDS to me addressed. I’ve said that I could definitely give a new example EVERY. SINGLE. DAY of women being brutaly beaten and often killed JUST FOR BEING WOMEN. And that’s from the news, not from experiences shared with me, and obviously not accounting for the throusands that suffer in silence every day. I am so frustrated!
So for now I’m going to start collecting articles when I come across them, maybe I’ll place them eventually in their own page tab, but for now I’ll tag them all #tomorrowwillbedifferent to highlight both our need to act NOW to stop this situation from continuing, to break the silence, and also to call attention to what it is like to leave a violent situation. It is not for us to judge anyone in that situation, but to provide support and assistance in whatever way that person experiencing violence needs. Educating ourselves on the realities of abuse, methods of coercive control and better develop resources for those living with or fleeing abuse.
Today I came across this article about Georgia woman Jessica Arrendale who’s partner and child’s father beat her with a baseball bat before shooting her in the head with a rifle. Her last act on this earth? Placing her baby in a toilet bowl and covering it with her body. Her daughter survived.
Rest in Power Jessica.
To be perfectly honest, I have seen this video making the rounds the past few days and have purposefully been avoiding it after the particularly triggering remake of a recent Baltimore Ravens themed Cover Girl ad made the rounds with a similar headline depicting the model with a badly battered face.
That being said, today I finally checked it out and I’m glad I did. I appreciate the sarcasm and humour that comedienne Megan MacKay brings to the video and the additional links and resources provided. We can do better.
In response to the video recently released of Janay Rice the hash tag #whyistayed has exploded with folks sharing their own experiences of staying in an abusive relationship and why. So powerful!
Another absolutely horrific assault on a woman. I’m sure many of you have heard by now about the brutally violent attack on Christy Mack by her ex boyfriend MMA fighter Jon ‘war machine’ Koppenhaver, from multiple sources including her own account of the abuse posted on twitter. By all accounts he tried to kill her. Well, more horrific details have emerged on the investigation.
“there is nothing in the report that contradicts Mack’s claim that Koppenhaver arrived at her house unannounced and held her hostage while he broke 18 bones in her face with his fists and sawed off her hair with a dull knife. There is nothing that contradicts her claim that she went in and out of consciousness while Koppenhaver looked through her social media profiles on her phone and punched or kicked her every time he found a post he didn’t like. There is nothing that contradicts her claim that she might be dead if she hadn’t escaped to her backyard while Koppenhaver looked for a sharper knife with which to kill her. And there is nothing — absolutely nothing — in the report that could suggest that Mack is at all responsible for the unspeakably horrifying assault she suffered at the hands of a domestic abuser.”
No one does anything to deserve such a beating. Such brutalization. And she is not alone. I’m at a loss for words…
Wow. So inspiring to hear that after all she’s experienced she still has compassion and understanding for her oppressors. Every time I think I couldn’t love her anymore, she surprises me yet again!
Ladies and gentlemen, folks of every and all gender representations, Ms. Laverne Cox
The result is not what you’d think. Her sign at the end reads “help me, I do not know if I can wait until tomorrow”
The loss of her smile…like putting out a beacon of light. So powerful.
See the video HERE