Winnipeg – Where Canada’s Racism Problem May Be At It’s Worst

“For decades, the friendly Prairie city has been known for its smiling, lefty premiers, pacifist, Mennonite writers and a love affair with the Jets. Licence plates here bear the tag “Friendly Manitoba.” But events of last fall served to expose a darker reality. The Manitoba capital is deeply divided along ethnic lines. It manifestly does not provide equal opportunity for Aboriginals. And it is quickly becoming known for the subhuman treatment of its First Nations citizens, who suffer daily indignities and appalling violence. Winnipeg is arguably becoming Canada’s most racist city.”

Full piece with links HERE

Why The Penalty Should Be Harsh In The Dalhousie Dentistry Case

“If these men had posted these comments mere months from now, their professional bodies would be dealing with them. (According to the Canadian dentistry code of ethics, adopted by provinces, a dentist shall represent himself or herself in a manner that contributes to the public’s trust and confidence in the profession.) When they chose a career with big responsibility, they accepted being held to a high standard of behaviour.”

Absolutely. Some great points made HERE

Gaslighting (an introduction)

“We are supposed to be the caretakers of everyone else’s emotions. So when someone gaslights a woman, it’s a very effective means of silencing her. She looks to herself to see how she can improve, because the thought of upsetting someone she loves is distressing.”

Full piece with examples HERE

Mountie Arrests Woman Then Releases Her Into His Own Custody

Couldn’t have said it better myself;

“How is taking a Aboriginal woman who is intoxicated to your home after arresting her as a RCMP officer the start of a “relationship”? Not only is the act horrifying, but the reporting on this shows such a lack of understanding of rape culture – where is the conversation of consent? of power? Come on CBC do better.” – Farrah Khan

Full piece HERE 

Social Experiment Reveals How People React When Domestic Violence Happens in Public

Only one person says or does ANYTHING. Not surprising. Still ever disturbing.

TW for the video for scenes of physical violence, verbal abuse and bistander inaction.

“Ydhage and the group say they spoke with most of the people who rode the elevator. “Most of them said they felt ashamed of themselves for not reacting and said they were glad it was an experiment,” he told The Independent. “Some people claimed they were going to call the police, but we think that that is lie. We filmed it over two days and the police never showed up once.” ”

The video and full story can be found HERE

Stand Your Ground Doesn’t Apply To Domestic Violence Survivors – South Carolina

” The Stand Your Ground law contains a separate provision that authorizes deadly force in self-defense against grave bodily harm or death in another place “where he has a right to be.” Prosecutors are arguing that neither of these laws permit one occupant of a home to use deadly force against another. But as Nicholson points out, this interpretation would yield the perverse result that both self-defense provisions explicitly exempt domestic abusers when they perpetrate violence within their own home.”

Read full piece with examples HERE

Survivors In Their Own Words #WhyIStayed

It’s the question every survivor of domestic violence is posed, often incredulously: Why didn’t you just leave? The reality is that leaving an abusive relationship is often a herculean task that endangers the woman and calls for resources that aren’t readily available.

Read six womyn’s personal stories at the link HERE, you can read the stories or listen to the survivors read the stories themselves, ever powerful

#WhyIStayed

Study On Reproductive Rights And Domestic Violence

The interviews cover topics from physical and mental health to employment and relationships. On Monday, findings from the study on intimate partner violence, pregnancy, parenthood and abortion were published by BMC Medicine, and those findings were striking.
Incidents of intimate partner violence by the man involved in the pregnancy went down among women who were able to have an abortion, but remained consistent for women who carried their pregnancies to term. The reason, according to Foster, was that “being unable to have the abortion tethered women to violent men, while women who have the abortion were more able to escape abusive relationships”

Read more about the study HERE

Georgia Woman’s Last Act Saves Baby

I have had this conversation with a few friends lately about how tired I am (we are) of having to ‘prove’ that violence against womyn is a real and an incredibly important and overwhelming issue that NEEDS to me addressed. I’ve said that I could definitely give a new example EVERY. SINGLE. DAY of women being brutaly beaten and often killed JUST FOR BEING WOMEN. And that’s from the news, not from experiences shared with me, and obviously not accounting for the throusands that suffer in silence every day. I am so frustrated!
So for now I’m going to start collecting articles when I come across them, maybe I’ll place them eventually in their own page tab, but for now I’ll tag them all #tomorrowwillbedifferent to highlight both our need to act NOW to stop this situation from continuing, to break the silence, and also to call attention to what it is like to leave a violent situation. It is not for us to judge anyone in that situation, but to provide support and assistance in whatever way that person experiencing violence needs. Educating ourselves on the realities of abuse, methods of coercive control and better develop resources for those living with or fleeing abuse.

Today I came across this article about Georgia woman  Jessica Arrendale who’s partner and child’s father beat her with a baseball bat before shooting her in the head with a rifle. Her last act on this earth? Placing her baby in a toilet bowl and covering it with her body. Her daughter survived.
Rest in Power Jessica. 

‘Ray Rice Makeup Tutorial’

To be perfectly honest, I have seen this video making the rounds the past few days and have purposefully been avoiding it after the particularly triggering remake of a recent Baltimore Ravens themed Cover Girl ad made the rounds with a similar headline depicting the model with a badly battered face.
That being said, today I finally checked it out and I’m glad I did. I appreciate the sarcasm and humour that comedienne Megan MacKay brings to the video and the additional links and resources provided. We can do better.