This Jarring Photo Series (and mini documentary) Captures What PTSD Really Looks Like

TW – Graphic images, suicide

These powerful images are extremely important. As one woman mentions in the short video at the bottom of the page, it’s one thing to hear a statistic but it’s another to be faced with an image. I like that each veteran had choice over how they wanted their images to look. They are so full of emotion and truth, and I am honoured by their vulnerability and strength. I feel that this conversation is important not just for those serving in the armed forces, but for police, firefighters and other first responders, as well as survivors of all forms of abuse and other traumas. It is important to shed a light on PTSD and to support those suffering. Part of that starts with education and really listening when folks share their experiences.

Find all the photos and the mini documentary HERE

On The Fixed State Ally Model vs. Process Model Ally Work

I feel that this piece by Melissa McEwan does a great job of articulating what I’ve been feeling in this regard for sometime. Often using ‘ally’ as part of one’s identity clouds your own ability to actually leverage your privilege productively and creates passivity in your work. The process model allows for a lot more accountability and real change.

“There are two ways that people with privilege tend to view ally work.

In the Fixed State Ally Model, the privileged person views hirself as an ally and claims the mantle for hirself. Zie may also acknowledge that zie is always learning and trying to do better, but states that zie is an ally to one or more marginalized populations.

In the Process Model, the privileged person views hirself as someone engaged in ally work, but does not identify as an ally, rather viewing ally work as an ongoing process. Zie views being an ally as a fluid state, externally defined by individual members of the one or more marginalized populations on behalf zie leverages hir privilege.

For various reasons, embracing the Fixed State Ally Model is actually antithetical to effective ally work.”

Full piece and listing HERE

Loved and Grieved; A Story of Late Term Abortion

One mother shares her challenging pregnancy and her decision to choose late term abortion. Not all choices are black and white. I really feel for her situation and only hope if I’m ever in her situation I can handle myself as gracefully and selflessly.

HERE is her story.

Procrastination

“It turns out procrastination is not typically a function of laziness, apathy or work ethic as it is often regarded to be. It’s a neurotic self-defense behavior that develops to protect a person’s sense of self-worth.

You see, procrastinators tend to be people who have, for whatever reason, developed to perceive an unusually strong association between their performance and their value as a person. This makes failure or criticism disproportionately painful, which leads naturally to hesitancy when it comes to the prospect of doing anything that reflects their ability — which is pretty much everything.”

Procrastination Is Not Laziness | Thought Catalog

Man Documents His Wife’s Brave Battle with Cancer

Man Documents His Wife’s Brave Battle with Cancer

An incredibly moving and haunting work from Angelo Merendino, “The Battle We Didn’t Choose”. The images captured are so powerful, and truly capture the love, joy, fear, pain, pure emotion in each moment. What a treasured way to remember the life and strength of your beautiful partner.

As someone who has had their lives personally touched by the nightmare of breast cancer I am so thankful for this incredible, brave work.