“If these men had posted these comments mere months from now, their professional bodies would be dealing with them. (According to the Canadian dentistry code of ethics, adopted by provinces, a dentist shall represent himself or herself in a manner that contributes to the public’s trust and confidence in the profession.) When they chose a career with big responsibility, they accepted being held to a high standard of behaviour.”
Absolutely. Some great points made HERE
TW: sexual assault, victim grooming, child molestation
One woman’s experience of coming forward.
“Shit like that probably isn’t an accident. A serial rapist isn’t going to target an upstanding citizen, somebody difficult to manipulate. Like a lion targeting a lagging gazelle, a serial rapist grooms its prey and selects someone who isn’t going to be credible. They go for the person you would want to second-guess.
Serial attackers often choose people who they think people won’t care about or believe, people with drug problems or those who may seem a bit crazy.”
I recommend checking out the entire piece HERE
A powerful hash tag that has come out of all the victim blaming that has been circulating around recent accusations of sexual assault against Joan Ghomeshi.
Huffington Post dedicated their entire home page to sharing these stories and making sure they’re highlighted because this is a VERY important issue! So happy to see a major news outlet giving our voices a platform!
Check some out HERE
Spoken Word piece on rape culture and men’s responsibility, phenomenal. Imagine the difference these conversations could make? So powerful
..”you tell me that she never said no, that you’re sorry, that you’re not a bad guy…
Rape culture is silence, is being able to see the future and not doing anything about it, it is believing the fairy tale platitude that there are good people and bad people and that as long as you’re not one of the bad people your job is done, your conscience is clear, it is all of us swimming through the same polluted waters of beer commercials, policing masculinity, and stand up comedians making rape jokes to sound edgy, and media talking heads blaming the victim and music portraying women as disposable sex objects, it is language encouraging us to think of sex as violence, FUCK, HIT, BANG, SMASH, it is telling our daughters to dress sensibly and not walk alone at night and telling our sons…it is a conversation that never happened.”
Good for you girl! On behalf of all those who can’t 👏👏
“Columbia University senior Emma Sulkowicz has taken her experience attending college with her rapist and turned it into her senior thesis project. “It’s endurance performance art piece,” Sulkowicz told the Columbia Daily Spectator about the endeavor, for which she will carry her mattress around to every one of her classes until her rapist is either expelled or chooses to leave the school.”
OR ANY NUDES SENT TO YOU WITHOUT THE SUBJECTS CONSENT!!
This should be common sense but it’s not, so here is a great article (with NO links to the photos recently released of Jennifer or any of the other ALL FEMALE celebrities targeted in this situation) that I would advise EVERYONE take 5 minutes and read. Talk about this. Talk to your partner, your friends, your coworkers, your parents and siblings. Have this conversation. We are not entitled to view or share these pictures, PERIOD!
“The people sharing these images are perpetuating an ongoing assault. The people gleefully looking at them are witnessing and enjoying an ongoing assault. When you have been asked by victims of a crime like this not to exacerbate the pain of that crime and you continue to do so anyway, you are consciously deciding that your enjoyment, your rights and perhaps even just your curiosity are more important than the safety and dignity of the people you’re exploiting.”
HERE is the full piece
Another absolutely horrific assault on a woman. I’m sure many of you have heard by now about the brutally violent attack on Christy Mack by her ex boyfriend MMA fighter Jon ‘war machine’ Koppenhaver, from multiple sources including her own account of the abuse posted on twitter. By all accounts he tried to kill her. Well, more horrific details have emerged on the investigation.
“there is nothing in the report that contradicts Mack’s claim that Koppenhaver arrived at her house unannounced and held her hostage while he broke 18 bones in her face with his fists and sawed off her hair with a dull knife. There is nothing that contradicts her claim that she went in and out of consciousness while Koppenhaver looked through her social media profiles on her phone and punched or kicked her every time he found a post he didn’t like. There is nothing that contradicts her claim that she might be dead if she hadn’t escaped to her backyard while Koppenhaver looked for a sharper knife with which to kill her. And there is nothing — absolutely nothing — in the report that could suggest that Mack is at all responsible for the unspeakably horrifying assault she suffered at the hands of a domestic abuser.”
No one does anything to deserve such a beating. Such brutalization. And she is not alone. I’m at a loss for words…
Such a gift for these womyn to share their stories of experiencing street harassment (and assault). One woman even wears a hidden camera to catch catcalling on film.
Her experience reminded me so much of my wedding day in NYC. After my makeup was done I had men yelling stuff at me the entire walk home. A man even followed me through a Bank of America to reiterate how pretty I looked. Normally I don’t get harassed too badly (what does that even mean? Not ‘too badly’? Like that’s normal, ugh!)
I can also relate to the assault. Hearing other womyn share their experiences certainly makes me feel less alone, but also fills me with such rage that on top of everything else, this is something womyn have to deal with everyday. Have to grow up learning to plan for our own safety. It’s not right. Teach our boys and men to respect a woman as a human being, not an object for consumption. Teach them to be allies when they see other men (or young teen boys, this is the worst) harassing womyn (or anyone based on a feminine gender representation) to say something!!
Watch the video HERE
These are all amazing, and ALL true.
Some of my favorites are, “Why does alcohal excuse his actions but condemn mine?” and “Do I have the right to shove pizza down your throat just because you enjoy eating pizza?”
An incredibly poignant share from a survivor of childhood sexual abuse.
In light of everything blowing around the internet in regards to Dylan Farrow’s recent open letter to the NY times, I wanted to share this piece written by another survivor of childhood sexual abuse. It really resonated with me personally, and I feel is a good place to start for folks who have no experience in this realm and are jumping to defend Allen or, almost worse, TO SIT ON THE FENCE OR PLAY DEVILS ADVOCATE FOR BOTH SIDES.
Is it possible that Mia Farrow acted maliciously out of anger towards Allen in their divorce in any number of ways? Yes. Does that have ANYTHING to do with hearing and believing a child that comes to you and tells you her experience? NO. You hear her, and you believe her! Whatever her parent’s did after that is completely irrelevant as far as the validity of her experience is concerned.
As someone who has experienced sexual assault personally, I know what it feels like to be constantly questioned; by friends, family, counselors, peers, society, strangers, and worst of all, myself. I know what it’s like to believe those voices, that your feelings must be wrong, that it must be YOU that’s the problem. Boys will be boys, it could have been worse, it can’t have been that bad or you’d have reported it. I’ve received a ton of advice from folks both trusted and not, none of which was at all validating of the experience I had until almost 10 YEARS after it happened. Keeping quiet caused numerous challenges to arise in my life, at the time most notably I gained over 100lbs and I failed to graduate highschool on time. But still no one noticed a thing. I can relate to Dylan’s story because one of my abusers is also celebrated internationally and seen as somewhat of a celebrity. I too can sometimes not avoid public celebrations of my abusers achievements, and can relate to falling apart and then being labelled as the damaged one. I can relate to having to shoulder the blame for my own assault.
So again, I’m incredibly thankful for work like THIS. We are NOT alone. We are the curator of our own experiences. We DO NOT NEED TO JUSTIFY our feelings or experiences to anyone. And as far as I’m concerned, any of ya’ll who wanna defend Allen can go take a fucking leap in the Hudson right along side his perverted ass!