Mad Men: Inside the Men’s Rights Movement—and the Army of Misogynists and Trolls It Spawned

TW; Violence, Misogyny

” I don’t mean subdue them, or deliver an open-handed pop on the face to get them to settle down,” he wrote on his website. “I mean literally to grab them by the hair and smack their face against the wall till the smugness of beating on someone because you know they won’t fight back drains from their nose with a few million red corpuscles. And then make them clean up the mess.”

Elam says the post was a satirical retort to the feminist blog Jezebel, which had made light of women hitting their boyfriends. He also maintains that A Voice for Men deploys over-the-top language and tactics because it’s the only way to overcome public indifference and draw attention to the urgent problems facing men.”

A lengthy but very important read about the history of the heads of the MRA  movement. Catch the entire piece in full HERE

Yes, My Feminism Is Rachet; Reflections on Inclusive Feminism

” Well, because feminism is not a monolith, and no singular interpretation of feminism is perfect. These people fail to understand that (a) there are multiple ways to encounter ratchet music as a woman; and (b) there are also multiple ways to engage with and embody feminist principles. I reject the idea that to be a feminist, my life cannot be messy. I reject the idea that to be a feminist, I cannot engage with—and sometimes enjoy—“un-feminist-y” things. I reject any prescription of feminism that does not allow for a complex intersectionality.”

Wonderful perspective to check out, full piece HERE

Why Your Intentions Don’t Really Matter, But Outcomes Do

This is wonderful. Intent IS NOT THE SAME as effect!

“What’s even more important is that outcomes happen externally.  It doesn’t matter if you didn’t mean to hit that bunny with your car, you did.  You were a well-intentioned driver and now you have a dead bunny.  What are you going to do about it?  You can try to adjust your driving (pay more attention, drive slower, etc.), or you can blame the bunny (shouldn’t’ve been there).  In either case, it happened, regardless of your intentions, and now you get to choose how to move on.”

I highly recommend checking out the entire piece by Samuel Killermann HERE in full!

The Myth of Skinny-Shaming

This article talks about Nicki Minaj and Anaconda specifically, and does a good job of articulating a feeling that I’ve been having about this song, and others, as well as different forms of expression I’ve seen circulating in the name of body positivity.
“To be clear, by no means am I approving of or endorsing skinny-prejudice; insulting someone for their body-type—regardless of privileged status—is unproductive and hurtful. What I am saying is that comments like “fuck you if you skinny bitch” have a context in which they must be considered.”

In the same way reverse racism or sexism is not a thing because of the systemic and institutionalized power behind the dominant group, skinny-shaming is NOT the same as fat-shaming because of the privileges afforded to those with thinner bodies, regardless of how or why those bodies look the way they do. To me, it just seems unnecessary to fight against oppression by trying to oppress the dominant group in the same way.

Thank you to Rachel Baker for this thoughtful piece, read it in full HERE

On The Fixed State Ally Model vs. Process Model Ally Work

I feel that this piece by Melissa McEwan does a great job of articulating what I’ve been feeling in this regard for sometime. Often using ‘ally’ as part of one’s identity clouds your own ability to actually leverage your privilege productively and creates passivity in your work. The process model allows for a lot more accountability and real change.

“There are two ways that people with privilege tend to view ally work.

In the Fixed State Ally Model, the privileged person views hirself as an ally and claims the mantle for hirself. Zie may also acknowledge that zie is always learning and trying to do better, but states that zie is an ally to one or more marginalized populations.

In the Process Model, the privileged person views hirself as someone engaged in ally work, but does not identify as an ally, rather viewing ally work as an ongoing process. Zie views being an ally as a fluid state, externally defined by individual members of the one or more marginalized populations on behalf zie leverages hir privilege.

For various reasons, embracing the Fixed State Ally Model is actually antithetical to effective ally work.”

Full piece and listing HERE