This is such an incredible, relevant list.
“We should not put the onus on survivors to increase conviction rates when there are so many other things preventing rapists from being held accountable for their actions.”
“How is taking a Aboriginal woman who is intoxicated to your home after arresting her as a RCMP officer the start of a “relationship”? Not only is the act horrifying, but the reporting on this shows such a lack of understanding of rape culture – where is the conversation of consent? of power? Come on CBC do better.” – Farrah Khan
A powerful hash tag that has come out of all the victim blaming that has been circulating around recent accusations of sexual assault against Joan Ghomeshi.
Huffington Post dedicated their entire home page to sharing these stories and making sure they’re highlighted because this is a VERY important issue! So happy to see a major news outlet giving our voices a platform!
” Another element of Ghomeshi’s pre-emptive strike that doesn’t add up is the reason he says he’s being fired. It doesn’t make sense that the CBC would fire Ghomeshi for being kinky. Remember the openly bisexual Sook-Yin Lee, who masturbated and had non-simulated sex on camera in the 2006 film Shortbus? She’s been working with the CBC for well over a decade, and while they initially considered letting her go when the controversial film was making headlines, support for her was so strong that they kept her on. Fast-forward eight years: the CBC knows that their audiences support even the very public sexual explorations of CBC stars. The CBC is of course also aware of Canada’s relatively permissive climate when it comes to sexual freedom. So why would the CBC not only fire the immensely popular Jian Ghomeshi for his supposedly mildly kinky “private sex life,” but to go so far as to bar him access to the building after doing so – and all of this already knowing he would sue? The CBC is not exactly in good shape right now. They don’t need another money drain and they certainly have no reason to do anything that would turn public opinion against them, while the Harper government quietly undermines their very existence.”
Spoken Word piece on rape culture and men’s responsibility, phenomenal. Imagine the difference these conversations could make? So powerful
..”you tell me that she never said no, that you’re sorry, that you’re not a bad guy…
Rape culture is silence, is being able to see the future and not doing anything about it, it is believing the fairy tale platitude that there are good people and bad people and that as long as you’re not one of the bad people your job is done, your conscience is clear, it is all of us swimming through the same polluted waters of beer commercials, policing masculinity, and stand up comedians making rape jokes to sound edgy, and media talking heads blaming the victim and music portraying women as disposable sex objects, it is language encouraging us to think of sex as violence, FUCK, HIT, BANG, SMASH, it is telling our daughters to dress sensibly and not walk alone at night and telling our sons…it is a conversation that never happened.”
Another absolutely horrific assault on a woman. I’m sure many of you have heard by now about the brutally violent attack on Christy Mack by her ex boyfriend MMA fighter Jon ‘war machine’ Koppenhaver, from multiple sources including her own account of the abuse posted on twitter. By all accounts he tried to kill her. Well, more horrific details have emerged on the investigation.
“there is nothing in the report that contradicts Mack’s claim that Koppenhaver arrived at her house unannounced and held her hostage while he broke 18 bones in her face with his fists and sawed off her hair with a dull knife. There is nothing that contradicts her claim that she went in and out of consciousness while Koppenhaver looked through her social media profiles on her phone and punched or kicked her every time he found a post he didn’t like. There is nothing that contradicts her claim that she might be dead if she hadn’t escaped to her backyard while Koppenhaver looked for a sharper knife with which to kill her. And there is nothing — absolutely nothing — in the report that could suggest that Mack is at all responsible for the unspeakably horrifying assault she suffered at the hands of a domestic abuser.”
Great list of references and glossary terms from Guerrilla Feminism!
“Glossary of Terms
Ableism: discrimination in favor of able-bodied people
Aromantic: a person who does not experience romantic attraction
Asexual: a person who does not experience sexual attraction
Biantagonism: hatred or dislike of bisexual folk
Cis: people who, for the most part, identify with the sex they were assigned at birth
Derailing: posting a comment on a thread that is off-topic from the original post
Fatantagonism: hatred or dislike of fat folk
FtM: female-to-male; descriptive term in trans community
Heteronormativity: the set of power relations that normalize and regiment sexuality, marginalizing everything outside of the ideals of heterosexuality, monogamy, and gender conformity
Heterosexism/Heterosexual Privilege: the assumption that people are heterosexual, or the attitude that people should be heterosexual, because heterosexuality is the only valid sexual orientation. It often takes the form of ignoring bisexuals, gay men, and lesbians. Heterosexual privilege refers to the benefits granted automatically to heterosexual people that are denied to bisexuals, gay men, and lesbians
Homoantagonism: hatred or dislike of gay folk
Intersex: describes a person whose biological sex is ambiguous
Misogynoir: hatred of black women
MoC: Masculine of Center: a term coined by B. Cole of the Brown Boi Project, that recognizes the breadth and depth of identity for lesbians and queer folks who tilt toward the masculine side of the gender scale and includes a wide range of identities such as: butch, stud, aggressive/AG, dom, macha, tomboi, trans-masculin, etc.
MRA: Men’s Rights Activist
MtF: male-to-female; descriptive term in trans community
Queer: traditionally a pejorative terms, queer has been reclaimed by some LGBT folk to describe themselves. Some value the term for its defiance and because it can be inclusive of the entire LGBT community. Nevertheless, it is not universally accepted even within the LGBT community and should be avoided unless quoting someone who self-identifies that way
QPoC: Queer Person/People of Color
Sex-Shaming (f.k.a. “slut-shaming”): shaming someone because of their sexual behaviors/desires
SWERF: Sex Worker exclusionary Radical Feminist
TERF: Trans exclusionary Radical Feminist
Tone-Policing: focusing and critiquing on how something is said, ignoring whether or not it’s true
Trans: an umbrella term for people whose gender identity and/or gender expression differs from the sex they were assigned at birth. Trans people may or may not choose to alter their bodies hormonally and/or surgically
Transmisogyny: hatred of trans women
Transantagonism: hatred or dislike of trans folk
Trigger Warnings: a trigger warning does not promise to protect readers of potentially triggering material, but provide them with the opportunity to decide whether they need to protect themselves. We provide trigger warnings because they give survivors of various stripes the option to assess whether they’re in a state of mind to deal with triggering material before they stumble across it (via http://www.shakesville.com)
WoC: Woman of Color
Baltimore woman turns nasty and hateful anonymous comments from her blog and creates a powerful project, using them over selfies. I think this really speaks a lot to the kind of world we live in, despite those that may argue differently issues like ‘cyber bullying’, ‘slut shaming’ and ‘rape culture’ are all very clearly displayed in this one particular project. Thank you, Lindsay Bottos, for your honesty and your creativity and your bravery in putting yourself out there!
“The act of women taking selfies is inherently feminist, especially in a society that tries so hard to tell women that our bodies are projects to be worked on and a society that profits off of the insecurities that it perpetuates. Selfies are like a ‘fuck you’ to all of that, they declare that ‘hey I look awesome today and I want to share that with everyone’ and that’s pretty revolutionary.”
A small example of how ridiculous the false rape accusation argument is. Yes, false reports of rape do happen. That is not reflective however of the overwhelming experience of trauma and shame and fear of so many survivors.