Beyond Definition: On Queer Black Love and Kaleidoscope Identity

Kim Katrin Milan talking about her love with her new husband. Incredible femme woman, definitely one of my idols. The entire piece is beautiful, you should check it out HERE!

“On Being Femme

I have found the fullness in my femmeness because so many previous partners were threatened and unwilling to understand how powerful it is. While I helped them choose bow ties and blazers, I was critiqued for my pace in heels and the amount of makeup I wore. His embodiment of his masculinity makes more space for my femininity to be acknowledged as integral to my mental and emotional health. For the first time, my femininity feels essential and valuable.”

#whyistayed

In response to the video recently released of Janay Rice the hash tag #whyistayed has exploded with folks sharing their own experiences of staying in an abusive relationship and why. So powerful!

#whyistayed

Why Reverse Racism Doesn’t Exist

“The situations in which you, fellow white person, were involved were unfortunate and inappropriate, this is true. But to claim that these experiences were ‘reverse racism’ both diminishes and minimalizes the real and actual experiences of PoC who really do encounter racism. There is no system of oppression in America that actively works to oppress and subjugate white people.”

reverse racism doesn’t exist

Moontime Power

Dear dummy on twitter

“Here in begins an anatomy lesson infused with feminist politics because I hate you”

31 Womyn Show Us The Right Way To Respond To Common Excuses for Rape

These are all amazing, and ALL true.

Some of my favorites are, “Why does alcohal excuse his actions but condemn mine?” and “Do I have the right to shove pizza down your throat just because you enjoy eating pizza?”

 

TRUTH

School to Girls: Your Leggings Too Distracting to Boys

What kinda sexist double standard bullshit is this? It’s a slippery slope that starts with hemlines and necklines, now our damn pants are too tight?? Smdh…

“This kind of message lands itself squarely on a continuum that blames girls and women for assault by men. It also sends the message to boys that their behaviors are excusable, or understandable given what the girls are wearing,” the parents wrote. “We really hope that you will consider the impact of these policies and how they contribute to rape culture.” dress code

A Tribe Called Red – Angel Haze

Deity swag and omnipotent style ❤ ❤ ❤

“Look where I am and then look where I’ve been
Tell me that I ain’t destined to win
Never give power to none of you cowards
To tell me what you think my destiny is

Gone for a minute but back on my grind
Promise you you are no match for my mind
Took all my doubt, whipped it into submission
And forced my ambition to step into line”

Turn it around, even when you feel you dumbing it down…

Don’t Be Tricked – MMIW

Great piece on the illusion of safety and ‘swallowing the pill’ so to speak of colonization and assimilation.

“If you are an Indigenous woman, don’t be tricked into thinking you are any more safe than any of our other sisters out there. You’re not. The system and most Canadians don’t give a shit about you, how strong and talented you are, how hard you’ve worked, or where you live. If you are an Indigenous woman, you are a prime target for colonial violence.”

Don’t be tricked.

What Would Make You Believe A Survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse?

An incredibly poignant share from a survivor of childhood sexual abuse.

In light of everything blowing around the internet in regards to Dylan Farrow’s recent open letter to the NY times, I wanted to share this piece written by another survivor of childhood sexual abuse. It really resonated with me personally, and I feel is a good place to start for folks who have no experience in this realm and are jumping to defend Allen or, almost worse, TO SIT ON THE FENCE OR PLAY DEVILS ADVOCATE FOR BOTH SIDES.

Is it possible that Mia Farrow acted maliciously out of anger towards Allen in their divorce in any number of ways? Yes. Does that have ANYTHING to do with hearing and believing a child that comes to you and tells you her experience? NO. You hear her, and you believe her! Whatever her parent’s did after that is completely irrelevant as far as the validity of her experience is concerned.

As someone who has experienced sexual assault personally, I know what it feels like to be constantly questioned; by friends, family, counselors, peers, society, strangers, and worst of all, myself. I know what it’s like to believe those voices, that your feelings must be wrong, that it must be YOU that’s the problem. Boys will be boys, it could have been worse, it can’t have been that bad or you’d have reported it. I’ve received a ton of advice from folks both trusted and not, none of which was at all validating of the experience I had until almost 10 YEARS after it happened. Keeping quiet caused numerous challenges to arise in my life, at the time most notably I gained over 100lbs and I failed to graduate highschool on time. But still no one noticed a thing. I can relate to Dylan’s story because one of my abusers is also celebrated internationally and seen as somewhat of a celebrity. I too can sometimes not avoid public celebrations of my abusers achievements, and can relate to falling apart and then being labelled as the damaged one. I can relate to having to shoulder the blame for my own assault.

So again, I’m incredibly thankful for work like THIS. We are NOT alone. We are the curator of our own experiences. We DO NOT NEED TO JUSTIFY our feelings or experiences to anyone. And as far as I’m concerned, any of ya’ll who wanna defend Allen can go take a fucking leap in the Hudson right along side his perverted ass!