Please Don’t Tell Me I Was Lucky To Be Adopted

“Adoptees and our children, despite being connected to each other, can still feel alone, without extended families or roots or anybody who looks like us. There is that inescapable feeling that many of us, ourselves and our kids, have: that we could, at any moment, just float away into the ether because we have nothing to hold on to.”

Very powerful piece from an adult adoptee, read it in full HERE

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How To Tell If Your Child Is Bullying Others (And What You Can Do About It)

” Simply put, because of the development of their pre-frontal cortex, young people tend not to make clear connections between a behavior and the punishment or consequence they will receive. Instead, we need to activate consideration of the values you’ve instilled in them over their lives because it will appeal to the more developed parts of the brain that rely on pattern.”

Very interesting read, and I have to say I definitely agree with the overall message of the article,
” Something that’s easy to forget is that bullying is entirely preventable. Don’t listen to those who tell you, “Bullying has always been around. There’s nothing we can do! Kids will be kids!”

Bullying ends when we work together in community to address the root causes of bullying behavior, and some of the most central stakeholders in that work are the parents of our communities.

By taking ownership for this problem and by being proactive, we can help to ensure that every single student feels fully supported in who they are and that no student has to endure the pain and self-hate that can come from bullying.

We simply must realize the power we have to make this needed change.”

Read the full piece HERE with full lists of things to keep watch for and suggestions for how to address them!

We Need To Talk About Women Who Regret Motherhood

Excellent piece to start conversation around motherhood and expectations, of womyn in particular.

“This is why speaking frankly about motherhood matters, and why support matters, because what any one woman cannot summon can be summoned by the village, if it exists. And what matters even more than that is giving women the resources to cope with whatever their experience is, and the space to sort through the complex feelings that accompany it, a way for a woman to be a mother and still human, still flawed, still something other than merely an endless vessel of giving. Because as in everything, what we think we “want” is but a sliver of the picture.”

Read it in full with links to first hand experiences HERE. I thought the shares were very honest and brave, very necessary to the conversation as I am SURE these womyn are not alone in their feelings and experiences.

Loved and Grieved; A Story of Late Term Abortion

One mother shares her challenging pregnancy and her decision to choose late term abortion. Not all choices are black and white. I really feel for her situation and only hope if I’m ever in her situation I can handle myself as gracefully and selflessly.

HERE is her story.

What Are Your Children Eating?

This is something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. How much is too much? How many treats? I want to support mothers in their parenting choices, and do, so I’m struggling with conflicting feelings on this one. As someone who developed awful nutritional habits and relationships with food early, I feel this is an important message.
PSA HERE

Boys Will Be Boys

How we talk to and raise our boys often gets lost in the gender discourse. Saying all girls love princesses is as much a disservice to our children as saying all boys don’t.
The part about boys flirting as babies and having girlfriends as toddlers is something that particularly bothers me. The way we gender and specialize relationships of BABIES, but that’s a rant for another day!
This makes me that much prouder of my incredible sissy who raises my nephew to his fullest potential, FUCK the gender binary!