Beyond Definition: On Queer Black Love and Kaleidoscope Identity

Kim Katrin Milan talking about her love with her new husband. Incredible femme woman, definitely one of my idols. The entire piece is beautiful, you should check it out HERE!

“On Being Femme

I have found the fullness in my femmeness because so many previous partners were threatened and unwilling to understand how powerful it is. While I helped them choose bow ties and blazers, I was critiqued for my pace in heels and the amount of makeup I wore. His embodiment of his masculinity makes more space for my femininity to be acknowledged as integral to my mental and emotional health. For the first time, my femininity feels essential and valuable.”

Robin Williams Was Loved, but Love Doesn’t Cure Mental Illness

This perspective was one that I feel sorely lacking from the current discourse on mental illness brought into the light by Robin Williams tragic passing yesterday.

“There were a lot of comments on Twitter about how much Robin Williams was loved and what a shame that he didn’t know it. I didn’t know Robin Williams, but I bet he did know that he was loved. I know that I am loved. Maybe not on a Robin Williams scale, but I have friends and family who would do anything for me, and I absolutely know this. But there comes a point where love does not matter…..Mental illness is an indiscriminate killer, one that I have been outrunning for years. So many of us are, and not all of us survive, and a tragedy like this reminds you how real the danger is. One problem is, it’s easy for most people to go back to forgetting.”

Check it out in full HERE 

Resources On Depression

After the passing of Robin Williams today I felt it especially poignant to compile some kind of listing of resources for those suffering with, knowing something suffering with, or wanting to know more about what it is like to suffer with depression. Seeing the outpouring of love on my social media right now for Mr. Williams makes me wonder if that would have made a difference in his decision to end his life today.

If you are suffering you are NOT alone. Please check out some of the references below. I will continue to provide updates with new links as I find/receive them. Any that you would like to share in the comments would be truly appreciated!

Suicide Hotlines

5 Myths about Mental Illness 

Jumpers – Words from survivors of suicide attempts on the Golden Gate Bridge

Mothering with Mental Illness – One mother shares her experiences parenting with mental illness

Connex Ontario Health Services Information (CANADA)

Canadian Mental Health Association

Partners For Mental Health – Helping end the stigma surrounding mental illness, great resource for shared personal experiences with mental illness

Stephen Fry’s Response to a Fan

My Mental Health – Great general resource

“But to have everyone express shock and wonder that you’ve got a mental illness only serves to increase your sense of alienation.” – One man’s experience

And another’s…

And this persons experience, complete with illustrations

Video – What Causes Depression?

Ted Talk on Mental Illness (Stigma, health, experience, etc)

Self harm prevention tumblr – http://www.tumblr.com/search/self%20harm%20prevention

Taking Care of Yourself While Supporting a Loved One

This woman’s experience as well

21 Comics That Capture the Frustrations of Depression

21 Things No One Tells You About Being Depressed

Robin Williams and Why Funny People Kill Themselves – “Be there when they need you, and keep being there even when they stop being funny.” <—-THIS (cracked.com)

 

 

One of the most accurate descriptions of what it’s like to suffer with depression that I’ve ever heard – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HUHcc7ipGt0

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Laverne Cox on Street Harassment

Wow. So inspiring to hear that after all she’s experienced she still has compassion and understanding for her oppressors. Every time I think I couldn’t love her anymore, she surprises me yet again!

Ladies and gentlemen, folks of every and all gender representations, Ms. Laverne Cox

NO ONE Deserves To Go Hungry

It’s as simple as that

In 2011 Ben started the food recovery network and now 3 years later businesses can become ‘food recovery certified’. What an awesome, important program. And I’m personally inspired by someone who saw a need and worked to change it

Passion+action=CHANGE 💜

Boys Will Be Boys

How we talk to and raise our boys often gets lost in the gender discourse. Saying all girls love princesses is as much a disservice to our children as saying all boys don’t.
The part about boys flirting as babies and having girlfriends as toddlers is something that particularly bothers me. The way we gender and specialize relationships of BABIES, but that’s a rant for another day!
This makes me that much prouder of my incredible sissy who raises my nephew to his fullest potential, FUCK the gender binary!