This Jarring Photo Series (and mini documentary) Captures What PTSD Really Looks Like

TW – Graphic images, suicide

These powerful images are extremely important. As one woman mentions in the short video at the bottom of the page, it’s one thing to hear a statistic but it’s another to be faced with an image. I like that each veteran had choice over how they wanted their images to look. They are so full of emotion and truth, and I am honoured by their vulnerability and strength. I feel that this conversation is important not just for those serving in the armed forces, but for police, firefighters and other first responders, as well as survivors of all forms of abuse and other traumas. It is important to shed a light on PTSD and to support those suffering. Part of that starts with education and really listening when folks share their experiences.

Find all the photos and the mini documentary HERE

Gaslighting (an introduction)

“We are supposed to be the caretakers of everyone else’s emotions. So when someone gaslights a woman, it’s a very effective means of silencing her. She looks to herself to see how she can improve, because the thought of upsetting someone she loves is distressing.”

Full piece with examples HERE

Mountie Arrests Woman Then Releases Her Into His Own Custody

Couldn’t have said it better myself;

“How is taking a Aboriginal woman who is intoxicated to your home after arresting her as a RCMP officer the start of a “relationship”? Not only is the act horrifying, but the reporting on this shows such a lack of understanding of rape culture – where is the conversation of consent? of power? Come on CBC do better.” – Farrah Khan

Full piece HERE 

Social Experiment Reveals How People React When Domestic Violence Happens in Public

Only one person says or does ANYTHING. Not surprising. Still ever disturbing.

TW for the video for scenes of physical violence, verbal abuse and bistander inaction.

“Ydhage and the group say they spoke with most of the people who rode the elevator. “Most of them said they felt ashamed of themselves for not reacting and said they were glad it was an experiment,” he told The Independent. “Some people claimed they were going to call the police, but we think that that is lie. We filmed it over two days and the police never showed up once.” ”

The video and full story can be found HERE

How To Tell If Your Child Is Bullying Others (And What You Can Do About It)

” Simply put, because of the development of their pre-frontal cortex, young people tend not to make clear connections between a behavior and the punishment or consequence they will receive. Instead, we need to activate consideration of the values you’ve instilled in them over their lives because it will appeal to the more developed parts of the brain that rely on pattern.”

Very interesting read, and I have to say I definitely agree with the overall message of the article,
” Something that’s easy to forget is that bullying is entirely preventable. Don’t listen to those who tell you, “Bullying has always been around. There’s nothing we can do! Kids will be kids!”

Bullying ends when we work together in community to address the root causes of bullying behavior, and some of the most central stakeholders in that work are the parents of our communities.

By taking ownership for this problem and by being proactive, we can help to ensure that every single student feels fully supported in who they are and that no student has to endure the pain and self-hate that can come from bullying.

We simply must realize the power we have to make this needed change.”

Read the full piece HERE with full lists of things to keep watch for and suggestions for how to address them!

War Machine’s Suicide Note Blames ‘Men’s Oppression’ For Making Him Best His ExGirlfriend

Some may remember a few months ago when MMA fighter ‘war machine’ beat the shit out of his exgirlfriend Christy Mack, breaking her rib, puncturing her liver, and breaking her teeth among other injuries. Luckily she managed to escape while he went looking for a sharper knife to kill her with (!!!!!!!)
So now her has attempted suicide while being held in lockup. He wrote a three page suicide note, in which he only takes partial responsibility for ‘Christy getting hurt’, and was found gasping for air. He is now in isolation.
I am beyond angry this morning so I’ll leave you with this break down HERE

Stand Your Ground Doesn’t Apply To Domestic Violence Survivors – South Carolina

” The Stand Your Ground law contains a separate provision that authorizes deadly force in self-defense against grave bodily harm or death in another place “where he has a right to be.” Prosecutors are arguing that neither of these laws permit one occupant of a home to use deadly force against another. But as Nicholson points out, this interpretation would yield the perverse result that both self-defense provisions explicitly exempt domestic abusers when they perpetrate violence within their own home.”

Read full piece with examples HERE

Survivors In Their Own Words #WhyIStayed

It’s the question every survivor of domestic violence is posed, often incredulously: Why didn’t you just leave? The reality is that leaving an abusive relationship is often a herculean task that endangers the woman and calls for resources that aren’t readily available.

Read six womyn’s personal stories at the link HERE, you can read the stories or listen to the survivors read the stories themselves, ever powerful

#WhyIStayed

Georgia Woman’s Last Act Saves Baby

I have had this conversation with a few friends lately about how tired I am (we are) of having to ‘prove’ that violence against womyn is a real and an incredibly important and overwhelming issue that NEEDS to me addressed. I’ve said that I could definitely give a new example EVERY. SINGLE. DAY of women being brutaly beaten and often killed JUST FOR BEING WOMEN. And that’s from the news, not from experiences shared with me, and obviously not accounting for the throusands that suffer in silence every day. I am so frustrated!
So for now I’m going to start collecting articles when I come across them, maybe I’ll place them eventually in their own page tab, but for now I’ll tag them all #tomorrowwillbedifferent to highlight both our need to act NOW to stop this situation from continuing, to break the silence, and also to call attention to what it is like to leave a violent situation. It is not for us to judge anyone in that situation, but to provide support and assistance in whatever way that person experiencing violence needs. Educating ourselves on the realities of abuse, methods of coercive control and better develop resources for those living with or fleeing abuse.

Today I came across this article about Georgia woman  Jessica Arrendale who’s partner and child’s father beat her with a baseball bat before shooting her in the head with a rifle. Her last act on this earth? Placing her baby in a toilet bowl and covering it with her body. Her daughter survived.
Rest in Power Jessica. 

#whyistayed

In response to the video recently released of Janay Rice the hash tag #whyistayed has exploded with folks sharing their own experiences of staying in an abusive relationship and why. So powerful!

#whyistayed